Is happiness a delusion that is synthesized or is something that we actually feel? Happiness can be forced or created, but it also can be an emotion that overcomes us at a different points in time.
People may think they are happy, but they really are just telling themselves that because they either don’t know better, nor do they want to find out. As humans we sometimes synthesize happiness by telling ourselves that we are content with what we have. You may not have the newest cell phone, but you synthesize happiness and tell yourself that your phone is better and make up reasons why the one you don’t have isn’t the best choice. People tend to question our happiness as well and then we ask ourselves if we really are happy. We may be tricking ourselves into thinking we are happy.
There are two sides of being happy, thinking that it is an emotion or thinking it is a delusional state that we enter. Happiness is what we feel when something or someone makes us smile or feel a positive emotion. Happiness is also questioned because people might say someone makes them happy and cannot explain it. People slip into a state of delusion and are unable to explain why they feel the way they do.

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/criticism-wrong-way-happiness.html

Megan Synnott
Eng-101


    Social Networking sites such as Facebook, are detrimental to romantic relationships. Facebook does not only remove the privacy part of your relationship, but also causes extra arguments. In order to be in a relationship with another person you must be able to see their Core Self. According to Dr. Tal Ben Shahar our core self comprises our deepest and most stable characteristics-our character. It comprises the actual principles by which we live, which are not necessarily synonymous with the ones we claim to follow. Our Core Self is our true self internally opposed to externally.
    Facebook removes to private parts of relationships because it is viewed by the public and it allows anyone to see your posts with your significant other. People who share the same friends as you are allowed to view if you break up on Facebook or if you are single. If Facebook enables us to show others when we enter or exit a relationship this leaves the ability for people to comment on it. People who comment on your relationships may cause problems whether its someone who likes you or your significant other. You may read a post you dislike by another person about your relationship which leads to arguments. Your relationship should be private and  should not be public. If you do not put your private life on the computer  then it will prevent problems that may arise because of social networking sites.
    Social Networking sites also enable you to post pictures of yourself or of others and “tag” people in them. By tagging a person in a photo enables others to view pictures that are of you whether you would like them to be posted or not. This may cause problems in a romantic relationship because you may have private photos and or photos with people that should not be viewed by certain people. If your significant other sees you in a picture possibly dancing with another person, or even being romantic with someone other than themselves this will cause problems. If you see pictures that should not be viewed by the public of your significant other this might cause jealousy.
    Social Networking sites such as Skye allows people to video chat with one another. Video chat is when you are able to see another person through a camera and they are able to see you. Skye can cause problems within a relationship because it enables us to say whatever we want to, to another person we may not know and it enables us to view things that may be considered wrong. Skye is a private chat between you and another person no one else will be able to view what is being said and done besides you and the other person. This causes arguments because you may be able to contact someone that should not be contacted or able to speak to someone that your significant other may not agree with.
    Social Networking sites are seen to only cause problems in relationships. It takes away from the privacy aspect, and the respect aspect People are able to view almost everything between you and the person you are with. People are less trusting because of things that other may post to you on your Facebook or Skye. And people lose respect for people by pictures that are posted or thing that are seen on the video chat.

 Identity:

No one can choose whether they are going to write with their left hand or whether they are going to write with their right hand right? This is the exact same concept with someone’s sexuality. I didn’t choose if I was going to like girls, and the person next to me didn’t chose whether they were going to be straight, bisexual, or gay. You are born with what your sexual orientation is and it’s not your fault. No one should be discriminated for being who they truly are. It’s the exact same concept if someone practices a certain religion, it’s not their choice, and maybe they were born into that religion. You don’t pick who you are going to fall in love with, or who you are going to marry. It is all about being yourself and embracing yourself for who you really are.

Complaining vs. fixing

When you are in a relationship and you have problems you may just decide to complain and argue about everything that is going wrong. When you complain you only create more problems and then you are even more far away from fixing the problem. Fixing the problem is when you take the necessary steps to figure out what is causing the problem and then doing something about it in order to fix it. When you are in a relationship you cannot just always say that something is wrong and do absolutely nothing about it, by doing that you will get nowhere.